Spouses are like garments for one another, the garments that are divinely created. The harmony in spousal relationship determines the holistic wellbeing of the spouses. Our definitions and concepts rule our conduct, actions or decisions by forming our worldview. Revisiting the definition of the “Divine Contract of Marriage” is an essential task in the age of narcissism where even the closest of the relationships find it hard to understand each other’s perspective
After the workshop I realised that in today’s world where everyone is busy and selfcentered, the quality of selflessness is one of the necessities in an eternal relationship of marriage.
I learned that I should be focusing more on my duties than my rights and this principle did not only put an end to all the blame games and complaints but also changed my surroundings miraculously.
The workshop rightly pointed out that when the concepts of acceptance and patience in the spousal relationship are replaced with the habit temporary tolerance, that is the moment when we start losing the essence of marriage.
“The Day when neither wealth nor children will be of any benefit. Only those who come
before Allah with a pure heart [will be saved].”
Surah Ash-Shu’ara, 88-89
It is important to recognize the spiritual diseases and engage oneself in lifelong efforts to cleanse
and purify one’s heart. Just like our physical existence would become feeble and lose all its vitality
owing to lack of attention, proper nutrition, and care; our spiritual existence (our soul) also requires
sincere and continuous care through its purification using various practical and academic treatments
prescribed in Islam.
You will be the first to know when the doors open again,
This workshop made me understand the significance of the divine contract of marriage in Islam. I realised that Narcissism has its impact on the core of our beings making it difficult for us to love and accept the reality of our spouses. Because I am not loving the real ‘YOU’, rather I am loving my own reflection in ‘YOU’.